JEALOUSY- A ROCKET TO YOURSELF

🙋Hello Everyone

🙏Namaste 🙏

“Hey, don’t let somebody tell you….. You can’t do something. Not even me. All right?”
Movie_ The Pursuit of Happiness Dialogue Delivery_ Chris Gardner

And “you can’t do this… or you are a dumbo!!!”…etc., all these kinds of phrases were spelled to me, it is ALWAYS the lowest feeling one can possibly experience. And one can easily lose their self respect, and as the self respect loses, Jealousy takes place.

Now first of all, what is jealousy? What are the different kinds of jealousy?

Jealousy, like other emotions, serves human survival. It is a negative emotion alerting a person in a painful way that his/her values are slipping away or that he/she is missing something crucial to him/her.

Jealousy is of different kind: There’s sibling jealousy; professional jealousy, which relates to competition on the job; time jealousy, resentment of the hours a loved one spends with a hobby or career, sexual jealousy.

In some cases jealousy (or envy) is directed at another person’s being, when the desired value in danger is ones own worth. Examples: Being jealous of someone because you consider them a better person morally, professionally, aesthetically, more popular, etc.

And in my case, the sibling’s jealousy is the kind. Not in the manner that he is loved more….no no no. We both are loved equally. But in the sense that he is intelligent, an all rounder kind of person, who has knowledge of each and every field, a good speaker, influencer, etc., etc. Words are always less for him…ha-ha. And jealousy is not because he is awesome… No. I Love him more than anyone in this world. It was all always because of the relatives, neighbors. We all know them very well…right?

So yes, my jealousy started when everyone started praising him and imputing me. And at that time I was 9, very young for all this. Same time I hated both, him and myself. Of course, who would love to be ignored and hated every time?

But you know, sometimes jealousy is also good.

It is a good motivator
Among the things jealousy makes you do, one of them is get right off your ass and work towards achieving a certain target yourself. If you’re jealous of your sibling’s or friend’s success, it’s basically resentment that you aren’t there yet, and that is motivation enough to make you go for it.

In jealousy there is more self-love than love.

Jealousy gets your brain juices flowing.
When you get jealous of people’s achievements, you obsess a lot over them and the entire case. Obsessing over positive things is a plus point, because it will lead your attention to spike.
Like in my case, I took my jealousy forward in positive direction…ohh no no….Actually, my jealousy took me in positive direction. I worked hard on myself days and nights, and overcome all my fears and studied hard. And you know what, now at least, I am not impugned and not only he is praised and all of that, the most important thing, I grew myself and I am burgeoning myself. And now, there is no one to say, that “you can’t do this”, i.e,
I gained my self-respect(bhai tokraa bhrke 😄).

Says Dr. Katy Kamkar, a psychologist at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto…….. “Jealousy generally has a negative connotation but emotions can be very helpful, informative and educational. It all depends on what you do with them and how you move forward.”

“If the jealousy evokes negative emotions, you want to explore it, understand it and then let it go. If it evokes positive emotions, it’s likely linked to a healthy view of ourselves, determination and appreciation of our positive characteristics”.

In the end, I just want to say that,

Rather than feeling jealous and thinking about others, focus on your own feelings and try to control them. If you feel jealous, it is usually because you are unsure of yourself. In those moments, remind yourself of your own value. Assert your own qualities and practice self-love. Work on building your confidence and self-esteem. This is both empowering and self-respectful.

Thankyou😊.