🙋Hello Everyone🙋. 🙏Namaste🙏

“I’m a shooting star🌠, leaping through the sky🌌
Like a tiger defying the laws of gravity
I’m a racing car🏎️, passing by like Lady Godiva
I’m gonna go, go, go
There’s no stopping me”.
Song- Don’t stop me now
Song by- Queen

We all have listened to this song, right! We all get motivated. Motivation is something that encourages us to reach our goal or we can also say that motivation is the willingness to expand energy, to achieve a goal or a reward.
We all feel overpowered after listening this song. But for how long?
One hour, one day or one week? Then?
Why is it so difficult for us to stay motivated? I also get motivated after listening #SandeepMaheshwari youtube videos, motivational songs, reading motivational books.
Motivational speeches, songs, motivate us, for sure, but it’s not sustainable for a long period of time, it’s sneaky, it just ebbs and flows.
There could be many reasons behind this, some of them are:
– De-motivating environment: If I tell you mine, this is one of my reason of losing my motivation… many times….. the neighbours, the relatives, sometimes teachers……… who were always like… ‘ You want to do this, try…we know you are wasting your time, you will be losing’. Of course who will not get demotivated.
– Negative environment: Negativity is something which comes in everybody’s mind when they are facing any problem in their life. It may have many kinds, like; There is something wrong in my life, I am not lucky;
If I failed in achieving my goal, I have to face embarrasment;
I should not set goals, I never achieve…..etc. etc..
– Got tired or bored from that exciting new idea which was fun for you few days before: Ok let me tell you the truth… I am blogging right?!… It was fun for me when I started………. slowly slowly the same thing happened….. but I am here in front of you with another blog. And this is also one of the reason that today I chose this topic…. Because I suffered from this, lots of things came into my mind. So I thought why shouldn’t I write on this topic.
– Disillusioned: It is the disappointment which came into your mind after knowing the unknown facts. We can take an example of a person pursuing any course he chose to study, he was having fun with the studies, but then he came to know that this course has only 30% employment chances or there can be many more reasons you can imagine. So there would be a disappointment towards reaching your goal.

There can be many more, but according to a survey, 8/10 have these reasons.
So, how can we cope up from these problems?? We have to fight from this.
– First and the very most thing is to be positive, think positive.
– As we are living in an environment where no one can see anyone getting success, so someone would always be there to demotivate you. Use those demotivating words as your power, reason of your constant motivation and make them jealous by your success, proving their de-motivating words wrong and thank them later for lighting up your inside fire.
– If you are feeling tired or disillusioned from your idea …take a small brake, think of what have you done till now…are you satisfied till now what you have done, then the best way is to think of ‘why?’ why you are doing this? This will definitely help you re-booting your motivation.
There are some steps you can take that will keep you moving forward. Some things you can do include are:

✨Adjust your goals to focus on things that really matter to you
✨ If you’re tackling something that is just too big or too overwhelming, break it up into smaller steps and try setting your sights on achieving that first step toward progress
✨Improve your confidence
✨Remind yourself about what you achieved in the past and what where your strengths lie
✨If there are things you feel insecure about, try working on making improvements in those areas so that you feel more skilled and capable.
In the end, I want to say is
“YES!! YOU CAN, WE CAN!!”💪

🙋HELLO EVERYONE 🙋

🙏Namaste 🙏

“Yeh zamana besharam hai, na iska dharam hai,
kyun bandhe Hain tu isme bandhagi,
O tere saath tera mann hai, Dil ki Dhadkan hai,
aage badh ke Jilae Zindagi”.
( “This Era is shameless, neither is it’s religion,
Why do you find it closed,
Your heart is with you, Heart is beating,
Go ahead and live”.)
Lyrics- Vilen
Sung by- Vilen

Have you ever been in a situation where you have reason to be happy and also reason of being sad at the same time??
And most of us prefer to be sad.
Why?
I have been in these kind of situation many times. Today, I will be narrating you two self- stories. First, where I was in this situation and preferred to be sad, and due to which I went in acute depression.
And the second where I chose to be happy, to change myself and my life.

That point of my life where everything started changing. I entered in 11th standard. The feeling like a flying bird caught in a cage with a slap (jaise kisi udte panchi ko jhapp se pinjare mein kaed krdiya ho).
I scored 10 CGPA in 10th standard. And like all middle-class parents, mine gave me only two options, whether to choose medical or non- medical ( Reason was my result ). So I chose non- medical. And that wasn’t enough, they got me admitted in JEE scoring institute.
And here the game begins.
I started working hard, because I know my parent were having full faith in me, and I didn’t want to break their trust ( and also, bhai paise bhi toh lagg re thee 😅). In the starting, I scored well, I was studying 13- 14 hours a day, and I think that much study is more than enough. Then as syllabus moved forward, my marks started decreasing. I don’t even know the reason till now, because I studied very hard, I practiced a lot. Now the thing was, that my parents were happy, they never asked me, why am I not scoring, not even once. My friends never asked me, never made fun of me for my results.
But I was getting affected, don’t know why, I was having many reasons to be happy, but my mind was moving in another direction. Then one day, again result was out on the board. I was very happy, that day I was having my Birthday. As I stepped in, I saw a group of three students, making fun of me and my result (Look at the marks of our class topper…hahaha….. she is just useless, only wasting everybody’s time in doubt session…and bla bla….whatever f**k they discussed ). I felt grimaced.
That day was the worst day of my life. I cried for more than an hour in a dark room. But I also never told all this to anyone. From that day, that minute, I was changed, changed from inside. I felt hopeless, like I couldn’t win, like I was been controlled. But controlled by what?
FEAR?

But what kind of?
No one was there for answering my questions, to whom I can share all this, and also I never wanted. It’s my life and no one can handle this, except me. I tried many times to kill myself. But at the same time I thought, if survived, who will answer (and also the hospital bills- obviously 😅😂)?
Then after taking months to gain courage, I decided to leave the institute. It took time to convince my parents but at last, I ended all this. But this fear never ended.

Humans have the most sophisticated minds in the history of the planet and we have these complex minds, because, we live in a complex world.
We all have fear of something. But have you ever thought where does it come from. We have fear, but of what?? I also never thought of that, before I had my second experience.

Fast forwarded to my college’s first year (Yeah yeah….Engineering 😅)
But it wasn’t that horrible. The results were out of 1st year and some of my friends scored well, they got an increase in their TGPA while most of, have a decrease in their TGPA. And I scored the same TGPA as scored before. Now I should be happy that at least there was no decrease in marks but I was feeling sad and tensed and again that fear was there. I said to myself “No….. Why??”. This time, instead of being sad, I decided to cope the fear. I started thinking about it. And after a long cerebration, I came to know that I have a wrong perception towards life. I have had ‘THE FEAR OF JUDGEMENT’.
It is an intense, persistent fear of being judged by others. What will my aunt say, what he/ she will think of me??…..etc.

I believe that FEAR is the single biggest obstacle that holds people back from fulfilling their potential and becoming the best version of themselves. And in my case, obstacle was the society and their judging mentality, which controlled my mind.
BUT NOT ANYMORE.

Remember, You have reasons to feel downhearted, but also you have strong opposing reasons to be felicitous. It’s your choice, what to choose?
So just pull yourself up by your bootstraps. If you are sad, depressed, it’s your own fault. You can choose not to be. Get out of your head. What I have learned is, always choose to be happy, it’s your life and no one can control it. Choose to change your mind. Think out of the box (sadness, depression) into which you have chosen to place yourself. You may never be able to fix others, but you can willfully and beautifully choose to fix yourself. Nobody else can. Choose to be the best and do the best that you can. If somebody else have a problem with you, it’s their choice.

OK in the end,
“BADAL RAHE HAI KUCH KHAYAL AB MERE
ULAJHTI DUNIYA MEIN SULAJH RAHI HOON MEIN
ANDHERI RAATON SE NIKAL KAR,
UJALE MEIN ROSHAN HONE CHAL PADI HOON MEIN
UTH KHADI HO GYI HOON MEIN
LOGON KO BHOOL KAR
WAKHT KO BHOOL KAR
JEENA SEEKHNE CHAL PADI HUN MEIN”
😊Thank You 😊

–TASTE THE THUNDER-

🙋Hello Everyone 🙋

🙏Namaste 🙏 Do you remember the dialogue💁️-
“Tu right nhi hai Naina,
bas mujhse boht alag hai”.
(You are not right Naina, you are just unlike from me)
Movie- Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani
Dialogue delivery- Bunny

This dialogue if you remember manifest that Naina and Bunny were unalike from each other on the basis of their nature.
How?👉
Naina was shy, self-aware, always took time to take decision, was quiet, had a small and limited friend circle
& on the other hand,
Bunny was fearless, on the hook, clamorous & friendly.
Why was that so???🙆
These trait differences can be elucidated as Extroverts and Introverts.
This concept of extraversion and introversion isn’t new, theories have been apparent in psychological literature from years. Many theories embrace human traits on the basis of extraversion/ introversion and determine personality of a person.
Ok,🤔 How can you wink out a person is introvert or extrovert?
According to Psychologist Carl Jung,
“Each person seems to be energized more by either the external world (extraversion) or the internal world (introversion).”
The introvert is more comfortable with the inner world of thoughts and feelings, so they will see the world in terms of how it affects them.
While the extrovert feels more at home with the world of objects and other people, and is more concerned with their impact upon the world. Assumed to be dual halves of the introversion-extraversion personality dimension, introverts are considered to be reflective, private, thoughtful individuals while extroverts are thought to be gregarious, assertive, adaptive, happy individuals with a tendency to take risks.
Introversion and extroversion are complex, multi-faceted personality constructs. Individuals can fall at the extremes of each personality trait or, more commonly, lie somewhere in between the two and exhibit traits of both. And the trait lying in between the two are named as Ambiverts.
To know where you lie in the scale, can go through the link here.

Continue reading “Introvert, Extrovert or Ambivert” →

🙋Hello Everyone

🙏Namaste 🙏

“Hey, don’t let somebody tell you….. You can’t do something. Not even me. All right?”
Movie_ The Pursuit of Happiness Dialogue Delivery_ Chris Gardner

And “you can’t do this… or you are a dumbo!!!”…etc., all these kinds of phrases were spelled to me, it is ALWAYS the lowest feeling one can possibly experience. And one can easily lose their self respect, and as the self respect loses, Jealousy takes place.

Now first of all, what is jealousy? What are the different kinds of jealousy?

Jealousy, like other emotions, serves human survival. It is a negative emotion alerting a person in a painful way that his/her values are slipping away or that he/she is missing something crucial to him/her.

Jealousy is of different kind: There’s sibling jealousy; professional jealousy, which relates to competition on the job; time jealousy, resentment of the hours a loved one spends with a hobby or career, sexual jealousy.

In some cases jealousy (or envy) is directed at another person’s being, when the desired value in danger is ones own worth. Examples: Being jealous of someone because you consider them a better person morally, professionally, aesthetically, more popular, etc.

And in my case, the sibling’s jealousy is the kind. Not in the manner that he is loved more….no no no. We both are loved equally. But in the sense that he is intelligent, an all rounder kind of person, who has knowledge of each and every field, a good speaker, influencer, etc., etc. Words are always less for him…ha-ha. And jealousy is not because he is awesome… No. I Love him more than anyone in this world. It was all always because of the relatives, neighbors. We all know them very well…right?

So yes, my jealousy started when everyone started praising him and imputing me. And at that time I was 9, very young for all this. Same time I hated both, him and myself. Of course, who would love to be ignored and hated every time?

But you know, sometimes jealousy is also good.

It is a good motivator
Among the things jealousy makes you do, one of them is get right off your ass and work towards achieving a certain target yourself. If you’re jealous of your sibling’s or friend’s success, it’s basically resentment that you aren’t there yet, and that is motivation enough to make you go for it.

In jealousy there is more self-love than love.

Jealousy gets your brain juices flowing.
When you get jealous of people’s achievements, you obsess a lot over them and the entire case. Obsessing over positive things is a plus point, because it will lead your attention to spike.
Like in my case, I took my jealousy forward in positive direction…ohh no no….Actually, my jealousy took me in positive direction. I worked hard on myself days and nights, and overcome all my fears and studied hard. And you know what, now at least, I am not impugned and not only he is praised and all of that, the most important thing, I grew myself and I am burgeoning myself. And now, there is no one to say, that “you can’t do this”, i.e,
I gained my self-respect(bhai tokraa bhrke 😄).

Says Dr. Katy Kamkar, a psychologist at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto…….. “Jealousy generally has a negative connotation but emotions can be very helpful, informative and educational. It all depends on what you do with them and how you move forward.”

“If the jealousy evokes negative emotions, you want to explore it, understand it and then let it go. If it evokes positive emotions, it’s likely linked to a healthy view of ourselves, determination and appreciation of our positive characteristics”.

In the end, I just want to say that,

Rather than feeling jealous and thinking about others, focus on your own feelings and try to control them. If you feel jealous, it is usually because you are unsure of yourself. In those moments, remind yourself of your own value. Assert your own qualities and practice self-love. Work on building your confidence and self-esteem. This is both empowering and self-respectful.

Thankyou😊.

Hello everyone!!!
🙏🏻Namaste🙏🏻


“Life iss paise ki tarah, Bas ek baar kharch kar paoge” .

(“life is like money, you can spend only once”)

Movie_Raja Natwarlal

Dialogue delivery_Raja

Now the question arises- Why had I written this dialogue here?

OK….. Now take a minute, read the dialogue again and think about it. What’s the first thought that came in your mind?

Lemme tell you all.

Life is god gifted and it’s never free, it’s priceless.
Here is the thing, I wanna refer is to use this gift in a better mean. And for that you have to use your time more wisely. Coz if you value time, the value of you and your life will be greater.
Every second is earth-shaking. Therefore, spend it wisely, so that you have no regrets in your last minutes.
If we spend our time decorously, our life hotfoot on the path. Now the question is
“How to spend it wisely?”
There are two things I wanna tell you:
1. Time is the most valuable commodity we have. So don’t be a multitasker to save time, concentrate on the thing you are doing at one time. Like if you are playing with your friends or having chit- chat, have with your full heart because that time will not come back. Similarly, if you are fighting with someone, fight with full strength, coz you will not get that time back.

2. Use your free time.
We have a very tight schedule, we are college students ,working peeps, home-makers. No time.
I know . I too have a very busy schedule.Wanna know mine??
Ok, some of you be like “NOT INTERESTED”… I know. Don’t worry I will not be telling you blow by blow.

Here’s a quick routine of mine:

8:00 A.M.-9:00 A.M. – wake up, breakfast, rushing for class. 9:00 A.M. -5:00 P.M.– continuous classes. 5:00 P.M.-7:30 P.M. – free time whatever I wonna do. 7:30 P.M.-9:30 P.M.– back to hostel, barter clothes, have dinner, family time. After the day, I used to spend time with my friends or do some work or scroll internet and I am a night owl so, basically blogging time or project or assignment work. But you know guys, I am very lucky, I have no classes on weekends(Till now), so free.
But you know what, the free time I got in the week is spent where?
It’s not, that I am studying …No no, I am not that kinda person. I use it in a bit different and productive way. And I am here to tell you all that “my way” to help you also to live a productive life

So here’s that Tip-O-Trick (my way):
Now what you have to do guys, to make 2 To-Do Lists.

1. To-do list of life –
You have to make list of the things you want to do in your life before you die. Stick the thing in your mind that whenever you are free you have to give time to your life list . As one by one it is completed, mark with a red cross and treat yourself with your favorite sweet.

Now it’s the way to live the life to the fullest because no regrets should be there when you are on your death bed.
Also –
“Janam kab lena hai, aur marna kab h, yeh hum decide nhi kar sakte, par jeena kaise hai yeh hamare haath mein h”.
(“When to take birth and when to die is not in our hands, But how to live our life is in our hands”) Movie_Dil Bechara
Dialogue Delivery_Manny

Okay heading towards our second list:

2. To-Do list of weeks –
Here, you have to make a list of things you have to do in the coming week. Now I am not saying to fix date or time or day. It’s just that make the list, just stick the thing in your mind that you have to complete your tasks in that week, as your task is completed, one by one, mark with a red cross and in the end if your all tasks are completed in the week, treat yourself with one of your favorite dish. I treat myself with a Dairy Milk Silk…it’s just yumm.

But remember if any of the task is left, don’t give a treat to yourself and don’t forget to complete that task in the coming week.

These two tips I wish will help you. And The second is also an interesting way…isn’t it… I mean tasks are completed you are also getting a treat… I mean there is a balance. So, I wish you will try the ways and let me know in the comment section. And also I wanna know your ways of spending your time. This was all for this week my peeps. If you have any doubt or any query or need any help, comments section is always here for you.

Thankyou😇.

🙋HELLO EVERYONE!!!
🙏NAMASTE🙏
Thank you for taking a sneek peek to my very first blog
“MY ADDRESS”
&
my very first blog post “About Me”
where I’m gonna tell you guys a little idea about me and my coming posts📜.

So, here I’m Ananya Sanyal . Ohkk ,yeah I am a bit nervous and afraid, I had to admit this, so please bear with me…haha 😁.
Hummm…… I am basically from Haryana, India. Yeah, the ‘Dudh Dahi ka Khana ‘ (the place popular for milk and its products).
I am a student, pursuing B. Tech CSE from Lovely Professional University, Jalandhar.
I love to Dance💃, cook, sing, doing mimicry of my favorite peeps…haha 😅 and yes, ofcourse travelling😍, exploring new places, trying variety of foods, their origin……just love 😍. But of course not into gossips.
My life follows the phrase or dialogue from the movie ‘ANAND’- “Babu moshai …… Zindagi badi honi chaahiye Lambi nahi”
(“Sir…..Life has to be big it shouldn’t be long”)
The dialogue explains that “Journey is more important than the destination” & I mean it seriously.



Well talking now about my blog, as you can guess from my domain name that it’s a personal blog where I will be writing about myself, the life I have lived ……..and I am living (yes.. I am not dead…..I am alive….the ghost is not typing this of course 👻😅) .
There is no difference between YOU guys and ME. We are alike, we all breathe, we all fart😌. Its just that I m expressing myself and my life to you & you are relating to it( I hope so…..haha 😅).
Now, in the coming weeks I’ll be letting you know my daily routine, my life changing events, my times when I was in depression and many more moods which you can relate to yourself and your life, because as I told you before , we are somehow alike,We all are sometimes very happy and sometimes we feel depressed and sometimes decides to do something wrong, sometimes get nervous & sometimes in peace.
You can get to know more about me by following on my personal social networking site; instagram…..link is below: https://instagram.com/_ananyasanyal08 😉😊